Umm, I love this. My friend, Kate, found it and forwarded it to me. I think I need a print so I can hang it in my bathroom (which, I recently decided is going to be decorated like a rainy day.) I’m not entirely sure what that means but it’s my working theme. My inspirational motto. My vision.
Tonight, my man & me are escaping with some friends for a (long) weekend. Four days of walking in the sand, running on the beach, sipping coffee at the shore. It’s really idealistic in my head…I should probably try to lower those expectations in case I step on a jellyfish, get a sunburn or forget my toothbrush.hark, now hear the sailors cry,
smell the sea, and feel the sky
let your soul & spirit fly, into the mystic – Van Morrison
Tom & I have some important conversations to have. It’s funny how real life, sickness, appointments who run late and sleepiness can all get in the way of connecting with your spouse. It’s just reality that sometimes the best we can do is to make dinner together.
I once heard a man talk about the importance of growing for (as well as growing towards) your spouse. Growth is a sign of life. As people we’re always changing, always evolving (in the non-monkey sense). There are areas of our faith, communication skills and conflict styles that Tom & I really want to be better for each other in. More whole, more Christ-like.
It takes time though. That’s the killer.
I’m amazed how many demands can be made on a day. Our workdays sometimes extend till 7:00 at night, there are needs here and needs there, the car breaks down, the budget needs adjusting.
Before we got married Tom and I decided that we would guard our time as well as we could. For us it’s as simple as running all commitments past each other (prior to agreeing) and staying home at least two weeknight and one weekend evening. Oh, and Sunday afternoons – that’s our nap time .
These rules have given us a really rich first four months of marriage because we’ve had time to talk through hard things, laugh together and learn each other.
It hasn’t always been consistent - people have needs, we have needs, we have to grocery shop, plans change, our apartment needs maintenance work etc. but we’ve at least cycled back around to that schedule every other week.
It’s difficult to keep that perspective. We’ve had to sacrifice some things and re-schedule others.
Our world is so frantically busy. Everything hums, chatters, races and moves. In the midst of all of it Tom & I want to remember our first ministry is to each other as husband and wife. . To spend all our emotional and spiritual resources outside our marriage would be wrong. We vowed to take care of each other in those ways.
This weekend we have a little more time and little less responsibility. No phone, no internet.
The gift of a few days to bury our bare feet in the sand, talk, pray together and discover new ways we each have and want to grow.
For whatever we lose (like a you or a me),
It’s always our self we find in the sea.
Happy (almost) weekend. You can do it .